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You’ve made the decision to open up your home to a foster child, and you’ve received that phone call to let you know that they are ready to come and stay. You may be feeling excited, nervous or a mixture of both. Your new foster child may be feeling apprehensive, too. Let’s have a look at some of the best ways that you can prepare your family and your home to make it a positive experience for everyone and to make your new resident feel welcome.

Finding out about the person

It’s really important that when a new foster child is coming to stay with you, you take the time to find out all about them. What are their likes and dislikes? Do they speak another language? What is their favourite food – or is there any food they really don’t like? Finding out these little snippets of information before they arrive can help you prepare and will help your family to find some common ground with your new resident. Stocking up on a few of their favourite foods will make them feel welcome.

Preparing the whole family

Fostering is a two-way process, and it’s really important that everyone who lives in your home – whether that be adults, your own children or any other foster children who currently live with you, are aware of what’s going to happen and what it’ll be like when your new foster child arrives.

You can help to prepare any other children in the house using the information you’ve already discovered about your new foster child. If they can find some things in common, such as favourite foods or activities they would like to do together, this is a great start for getting along.

Other children might have questions about how long the new foster child is going to stay with you, or where they lived before. It’s normal for them to be curious, so keep your answers as honest and factual as you can.

Preparing your home for the new arrival

It’s essential that you offer your new foster child a bedroom of their own, so they have a bit of private space to retreat to and relax in. Whether it’s a girl or a boy arriving to live with you, we’d usually recommend keeping the bedroom in a neutral colour scheme. It’s a good idea to make the room feel homely and cosy, giving them somewhere to relax with a book or some toys, depending on their age. This doesn’t have to be expensive, but some cushions or a bean bag can go a long way.

Those little essentials

Putting together a little essentials kit can be a really good idea, so that your foster child has everything that they might need, and you don’t have to make a last minute dash to the shops! Things like towels, toothpaste, sanitary protection and deodorant are some examples. Bear in mind that some foster children won’t have many possessions of their own and might come with very little in the way of luggage. It may be worthwhile getting some underwear, basic clothing, pyjamas and a little cuddly toy ready too, if you are able.

Get in touch with a member of our team to find out more about fostering!

Give us a call: 0203 757 0070

Email Us: enquiries@ascentfostering.com

As a mentor working with young people aged 10-17, I have found immense fulfillment in guiding and supporting the next generation on their journey towards personal growth and self-discovery. From the outset, I have been enthusiastic about this role, recognizing the profound impact positive mentorship can have on shaping young minds.

Every interaction with these young individuals has been a rewarding experience, witnessing their development and witnessing the transformative power of mentorship. Whether it’s offering guidance through challenges, providing a listening ear, or simply being a consistent presence in their lives, I have seen firsthand how these efforts can make a difference.

My journey as a mentor has recently taken a new turn as I embark on a Master’s degree in Psychodynamic Counselling and Psychotherapy. This decision stems from my deep-rooted desire to further enhance my ability to support individuals, especially young people, in navigating the complexities of their emotions and experiences.

Studying psychodynamic counselling and psychotherapy has been an eye-opening experience, enriching my understanding of human behaviour, relationships, and the intricate workings of the mind. Through theoretical learning, practical exercises, and reflective practice, I have gained invaluable insights into the nuances of supporting individuals through their personal journeys.

One of the most significant aspects of my studies has been the emphasis on self-reflection. As a mentor, it’s essential to recognize the impact of our own experiences, biases, and emotions on our interactions with young people. Through introspection and self-awareness, I have learned to navigate these dynamics more effectively, ensuring that my approach remains empathetic, supportive, and non-judgmental.

Furthermore, my studies have equipped me with a diverse range of therapeutic techniques and interventions that I can apply in my role as a mentor. Whether it’s facilitating open dialogue, exploring underlying emotions, or empowering individuals to discover their strengths, I now have a deeper understanding of how to support young people in their journey towards self-discovery and growth.

For an example I have been mentoring a young person called Angel (name has been changed for safeguarding purposes) who seems to struggle with accepting constructive criticism. instead of viewing it as an opportunity for growth, Angel is defensive and withdrawn. Through my learning I have had to apply psychodynamic concepts which entails exploring the past drawing from psychodynamic principles. I explored Angels past experiences with authority figures; it is questionable as to whether she had overly critical parents or teachers, leading to a fear of criticism. Recognizing Angel’s defensiveness as a defence mechanism, you understand that it’s not a personal rejection of your feedback, but a protective response rooted in past experiences. My understanding of this has enabled me to create a safe and supportive environment. Instead of being critical, I provided feedback in a more reassuring and constructive manner, emphasizing strengths before discussing areas for improvement.

With this psychodynamic-informed approach, Angel began to feel safer and more understood. Over time, Angel has been more open to feedback, viewing it as a part of the learning process rather than a personal attack. This transformation not only improved Angel’s performance but also strengthens the mentor-mentee relationship.

By integrating psychodynamic counselling and psychotherapy knowledge into my mentoring practice, it creates a more nuanced, empathetic, and effective mentoring environment, helping my mentees grow both professionally and personally.

Looking ahead, I am excited about the opportunities that lie ahead in combining my experience as a mentor with the knowledge and skills gained through my studies. I am committed to continuing my journey of personal and professional development, striving to make a positive difference in the lives of the young people I have the privilege to mentor.

In conclusion, being a mentor to young people has been a profoundly rewarding experience, fuelling my passion for supporting individuals on their path to self-fulfilment. My studies in psychodynamic counselling and psychotherapy have further enriched my understanding and equipped me with valuable tools to enhance my role as a mentor. I am excited about the journey ahead and the opportunity to continue making a meaningful impact in the lives of young people.

References for further knowledge:

“The role of mentoring in promoting youth resilience” By the National Mentoring Resource Centre.

“Psychodynamic Therapy: A Guide for Evidence-Based Practice” by Richard F. Summers and Jacques P. Barber

“Basic Concepts in Psychodynamic Psychotherapy” by Glen O. Gabbard, M.D.

Author: Alanah Wampamba

Foster carers provide temporary care to someone else’s child, whilst issues regarding their carer are addressed. For foster carers who are already practising, but who are looking to transfer agencies, we offer a complete package of support, making the process as easy and streamlined as possible.

Whether you are changing location or area, looking to upskill, or craving new challenges, we offer a therapeutic fostering agency that prides itself on 30 years of experience in fostering, further developing your skill set, and treating our foster carers as part of our extended family.

Why Ascent?

With the right placement, children and young people can thrive, no matter what their background. We look forward to welcoming those who share this vision and have the skills to assist. At Ascent, we ensure that all our foster carers are offered second-to-none levels of training and ongoing support. We strive to make your foster journey as straightforward as possible, including when transferring from another agency. You will be welcomed from the very first contact with us.

We are always interested in hearing from sensitive, judgment-free, foster carers, who believe that they are the right person to help a child build new memories and experiences, and who can see the value in the care that they deliver, and the gap that this helps to bridge.

Learning

We believe learning is the key to success. Through offering our foster carers intensive training, they become better equipped and highly skilled in dealing with issues such as trauma and abuse, which many young children have encountered. We also offer specialist learning opportunities such as managing challenging behaviour, nurturing attachments, LGBTQ+, and de-escalation techniques. We are always there to listen and support, but we openly challenge every foster carer to be the best that they can be. If you are looking to expand your knowledge and further your development so that you can provide the very best start to young people, we will support you completely.

The Ascent team of foster carers are treated like a family and represent the beating heart of our organisation. We are committed to excellence and dedicated to our core values, which helps to ensure that children and foster carers strive for excellence in all that they do and set out to achieve.

We work hard to find solutions. We have a skilled and multi-disciplinary team who are experts in matching children with their perfect foster placement, as well as a dedicated mentor to help their assigned foster carer with any problem that they may encounter.

Ascent is based in South London, covering the entire area from Croydon to Sutton. We specialise in all kinds of placements, whether short or long term, for younger children, teenagers, or parent-child placements. If you are looking to transfer agencies or begin on your path towards becoming a therapeutic foster carer, we would love to chat with you and send further information.

Learn more about transferring here

Trauma and attachment disorders in foster children are an invisible emotional burden, that poses a very real threat to their mental health and wellbeing. They occur when there has been a disruption in the relationship between them and the person responsible for their primary care – usually a birth parent or family member.

Trauma and Attachment

Foster children may have been subjected to a range of events or circumstances which lead to psychological harm or emotional issues. They may have faced neglect, abuse, disruption, or the death of a loved one. Trauma and attachment issues can manifest in a range of ways. From physical symptoms such as unexplained aches or pains, through to regression, failure to meet milestones, anxiety, and erratic moods and behaviours. These signs are a clear indication of underlying trauma, however foster children are often subjected to being labelled as ‘difficult’ or having behavioural issues.

They can have a profound and significant effect on a child’s self-esteem, and their ability to form new and healthy relationships and friendships with others.

Foster Parents

Foster parents are not only responsible for providing the basics of living, such as food and shelter. They also play an important role in providing an emotional safety net, where there is stability, routine, and an environment that is open to exploring the child’s thoughts and feelings.

Foster parents play an important role in helping their foster placements to embark on the journey towards healing. They can support, guide, and nurture children in their care, so that they feel loved, happy, fulfilled and able to meet their true potential. Providing a child with a stable home, acting as their trusted advocate, and empowering them by educating them, is the first step of the healing process. A foster parent will liaise with schools, health providers, and other agencies; acting as a voice for the child.

Play therapy can be a useful tool in helping foster children talk about their feelings and emotions. This may involve art, role play, storytelling, or other creative means. They allow a child to feel less anxious and more secure in opening up about their feelings, sadness, or certain events that they have been subjected to.

Cognitive Behaviour Therapy is also a useful intervention for helping children to identify, understand, and change negative thought processes. Techniques in relaxation and mindfulness can be highly effective in helping a child to deal with emotions and combat feelings of anxiousness.

A foster parent should have a strong cultural sensitivity and understanding of the diverse range of implications affecting a child, together with an in-depth background knowledge. They can then fully engage in helping a child to address their trauma and work to implement healthy coping strategies.

Conclusion

Helping a child with trauma requires time, dedication and commitment. A foster parent’s ability to invest in giving the patience and empathy required to help a child through their healing journey is rewarded by providing a child with a solid foundation for a stable, happy, and healthier future. Foster carers are a beacon of hope and can have a genuinely transformative effect in shaping the future of children in their care.

If you would like to find out more about fostering and how to start a therapeutic foster journey, please call us on 0203 757 0070 and we’d be happy to talk you through the process.

Running an outstanding fostering agency in South London has its rewards and challenges not least in the environment of children’s social care. We know there are tremendous social pressures within the wider community which leads to children coming into care. The local authorities are under huge pressure to ensure children remain safe in their families in a world where they have less money to spend. As a provider of outstanding services our responsibility is to ensure we offer quality, and value for money for our customers.

So, from my view point I like to think about five major areas:

• The delivery of therapeutic care to children
• Foster carer development
• Quality of support
• How we support our staff team and recruitment.

Of course, there are other equally important things we deal with day- to-day but these areas encapsulate the issues I think about from my perspective.

The delivery of therapeutic care to children and young people

This really centres on having good information, from our LA partners which enables us to understand the needs of children and young people in a wholistic way and they are well matched. We do our own assessment to unpick the presenting needs, to explore how we will deliver the care plan in a foster home. This is ensuring children feel safe and well supported in their new foster home.

Foster carer development

How a foster carer develops their skills is essential to caring for looked after children well. To intentionally parent children you need to be curious and understand their trauma and how this will impact your household. Foster carers need to reflect on parenting by using training and the support networks around them well. This includes their supervising social worker, therapeutic consultant, and mentors. We also know you do not become a therapeutic foster carer overnight, so it is a journey of learning with support.

Quality of Support

Given we are a south London fostering agency, Ascent actively uses the community and local resources to support our families. We partner with other resources in the community such as Reaching Higher a local youth charity to offer young people alternative activities with their peers. Support can mean using our various groups to discuss the delights and frustrations of parenting somebody else children. We have focused on the team’s mental wellbeing over the last year and challenge the team to stay healthy and to reduce stress in our lives through having a good diet and to exercise. Its not unusual for us to go for a walk in the park as a team or have a picnic together as a way of normalising the care experience for all. Support is about as having a range of tools to help foster carers reflect on the challenge of caring for children with complex needs and collectively think and share each other’s worries as a group. It takes a team to support the children in care or as the African proverb says, “it takes ‘a village to raise a child.”

Our core staff are the backbone of the organisation and at Ascent we have an Investors in people’s platinum award, we continue to make great strides in ensuring Ascent is a great place to work and people feel listened to and supported to do their job well. We believe everyone needs reasonable challenge and feedback; and to be clear of the organisational goals. Ours is simple we are committed to providing the best care possible for children and young people. Too achieve this we need motivated people who are aligned with our vision. Thankfully, we have a fantastic team who often go over and above to deliver the best care and support.

Looking for fostering carers across South London presents a major challenge, mainly due to the lack of availability of spare rooms within the family home, birth children are staying at home longer as they are finding it increasingly hard to move either into rented accommodation or buy their own place. A spare room in the family home for a looked after child is essential as they need a place to call their own where they can feel safe. We are actively seeking new carers to join our team. It important that people in South London engage with fostering as it a great way to give something back, its rewarding and we train and renumerate our team well. If you are interested email us on hello@ascentfostering.com or call us on 0203 757 0070.

Author – Mark Pomell

If you’re anything like us, you might have spotted a few Harry Potters, very hungry caterpillars, Big Friendly Giants, and Mad Hatters passing by your window on the way to school recently. That can mean only one thing – World Book Day has just passed us by.

Celebrating the power of reading, World Book Day is an annual event at many schools and libraries across the country. Kids grab the chance to dress as their favourite characters and join in some literary fun, but it’s also an ideal time to reflect on the importance of reading and sharing a love of books with kids.

In this post we’ll explore why reading is so beneficial for children and give you a few suggestions as to how to share a love of reading activities with your foster child.

How reading benefits children Numerous studies have discovered the benefits of reading for children, including:

1. Developing empathy – Reading allows us to imagine ourselves in the place of the characters in the book, how they’re feeling and what they’re thinking, helping to promote empathy. Putting themselves in a character’s shoes also allows children to gain a deeper understanding of their own emotions.
2. Improving literacy skills – Regular reading helps to expand a child’s vocabulary and gives kids a good academic grounding to succeed across the curriculum.
3. Providing stability – A recent study commissioned by The Book Trust identified that reading can be a ‘stable activity’ for children across their lives. It allows them to access information independently and can be a comforting, constant presence in difficult circumstances.
4. Increase creativity and imagination – When we read, we have to use our imagination to picture the characters and settings, and to predict what will happen next.
5. Enhancing concentration – Reading encourages children to focus on one task for a period of time. This skill, the ability to focus, is one that is vital for success in other subjects, and can also be a good opportunity to encourage quiet time.

HOW TO MAKE READING PART OF YOUR ROUTINE

Reading with kids at home can have a range of benefits, and is a great way to spend quality time with your foster children. Here are a few tips to make reading sessions enjoyable for you both:

1. It’s never too early to start – Even if your child is too young to understand what is being read, they’ll still enjoy looking at the pictures and following along with funny voices.
2. Try out a range of books – Every book is a gateway to a different world, and changing up what you read will give children access to all of these varied experiences. There are many books written specifically by authors who have experienced the foster care system, both as children and as carers, too.
3. Tailor activities around favourite stories – Reading is a fantastic conversation starter and a good way to get to know the kids you’re looking after. You could encourage conversation about their favourite parts of the book or help them to make their own illustrations to decorate their space.

To find out more about fostering, please explore the resources on our website or contact our friendly team on 0203 757 0070.

Parent and child fostering is a unique type of foster care placement that can have a hugely positive impact on the lives of the people you’re supporting.

WHAT IS PARENT AND CHILD FOSTERING?

Parent and child foster carers provide a loving environment for a new parent and their baby. As well as helping new mums and dads develop the skills they need to look after their child, you’ll share your knowledge and experience to help parents be positive role models.

This type of foster placement is usually short term, around 3 months maximum. Its purpose is to help make sure that parents and children can stay together. There might be concerns about the parent’s safety or their ability to look after a child. In some cases, the new parent may have been in care themselves and may need some extra help to

DO I NEED SPECIAL SKILLS?

You don’t need to have any specific skills to be a parent and child foster carer, but a good sense of humour and the ability to remain cool under pressure are a good start. You’ll have had experience in caring for babies, and you’ll be comfortable sharing your experience and teaching new parents.

On a practical level, you’ll need to have a spare bedroom that is large enough to house the parent and their baby, too.

If you decide that this type of fostering is for you, you’ll be given full training before you start. You’ll also have continuous support from social workers and other professionals working with the new parent. You’ll meet with your social worker regularly to discuss progress and any concerns. In addition, there are many networks of foster carers up and down the country who offer support and meet ups with other careers in the same boat.

Foster care agencies such as Ascent will provide additional training and ongoing courses to help you increase your skills and knowledge.

HOW TO FIND PARENT AND CHILD OPPORTUNITIES IN YOUR AREA

The first step in becoming a parent and child foster carer is to speak to your local fostering agency. They’ll be able to give you a lot more information and answer any questions you have.

Ascent Fostering serves many communities in south London, including Croydon, Lewisham, and Lambeth. You can phone us on 0203 757 0070 to talk to one of our team, or drop us an email at hello@ascentfostering.com. We’ll be happy to talk you through the fostering process and to answer any questions you might have.

Reaching out to local parent and child fostering groups is another good way to learn more about the journey to foster caring, find opportunities in your area and get started on this incredibly rewarding journey.